Funds being a significant determinant for these decisions, it is certainly handy to have the option to go the simple route.
However, when you can afford to do more than just treat the remains of the body, you may wonder is it worth it to have a service?
Why don’t you keep reading and ask yourself this again at the end?
The thing with funerals is that they have been around forever and aren’t going away soon. Methods may differ, but humans have always held the sentiment of marking their kin’s transition in meaningful ways.
Today, a funeral service can take many forms, but at its core, it has two purposes. One is to honor the one who passed with a befitting ending. The second is to give the bereaved loved ones a chance to acknowledge and process their loss collectively.
People who don’t hold a service often have their reasons. In some cases, the deceased states in their final wishes that they do not want one.
Sometimes, it’s because the family members can’t decide on a service due to contradicting principles and opinions.
And perhaps the most common, some people skip the funeral service because they can’t afford the traditional ones and aren’t aware of other options.
When you consider the underlying purposes of a funeral, you might approach that decision a bit more delicately.
Just as you can have a simple burial or cremation, you can also organize a funeral or memorial service that isn’t elaborate. Religious services are famous for their structure, with accommodations for everyone.
Elements like a wake, readings, and prayers can be arranged inexpensively with only your closest community members and religious leaders in attendance.
If the planning, rather than the cost, is your major deterrent, you can leave the details to your funeral director, and they will take care of everything. This can be even more helpful to non-religious people who don’t already have a structure in place for end-of-life rituals.
Preplanning reduces the odds of having wishes go unfulfilled when a person dies and offsets the weight of obligations on family members. You can state whether you want a service and what kind down to specific elements you may want to see at your funeral.
You can set up a convenient payment plan, compare prices, and decide on aspects like the theme and catering at your own pace. You may even pick the cemetery section you’d like to be your final resting place or where you want to be commemorated.
This way, you can prevent your family from shelling out lump sums on top of heavy decision-making in an expectedly difficult time.
By making your wishes known ahead of time or pre-arranging your services, you almost guarantee doing right by not just yourself but your surviving loved ones.
A service that brings everyone together to say goodbye and support one another in mourning will be as much for them as it is for you.
In the end, the important thing is to have your loved ones’ needs top of mind as you consider your own wishes. Sometimes, even just saying what you would like goes a long way.